It’s summer of 2014 and, yes, the dreaded summer homework assignments are still existent and I still am 100% not into doing school work on our vacation time. Anyhow, I was doing my homework for my College Writing class, in which we have to read the true story, Tuesdays With Morrie by Mitch Albom. One of the questions for my assignment was to respond to the quote Morrie said about how in marriage “Your values must be alike.” Here is my resonse:
Well, since I am seventeen I have not yet been married so I wouldn’t know exactly if this is a true statement.
But I have been in a few relationships and am currently in a long lasting one and I have learned a few things along the way. No, you do not have to have all of the same opinions. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you are one person.
You are both still unique individuals.
You do not need to “complete” each other, you should be complete and whole on your own.
But you should complement each other.
Lets not complete each other, lets complement each other.
It’s okay to disagree on things, in fact, disagree and argue all of the time, it’s healthy. But, yes, you do need to value the same things and want to head in the same direction. Relationships end when each person wants to go on a different path. One wants to have kids, one wants to travel. One wants to live in a different state, while the other wants to live in their home town. You must want the same things, that is important.
What the fucks happening in Ferguson?
Alright, i’m gonna sit down and basically explain the situation in this ask so everyone of my followers knows why i’m so pissed.
Michael Brown, a 17 - 18 year old african american boy was unlawfully shot (8-10 times supposedly) by police in St Louis, Missouri on saturday, august 9th, 2014. He was unarmed, and had done nothing to attract suspicion other than the fact that he was black. His body was left in the street for 4 hours. (EDIT: i’ve discovered that the Brown family wishes for any and all photos of Michael lying in the streets to be removed. please respect this and do so)
There are several claims from witnesses (see: Dorian Johnson’s account and video [HIGHLY RECOMMEND READING UP ON HIS ACCOUNT, ITS VERY SPECIFIC] — Brown’s friend who experienced the situation first hand, La’Toya Cash and Phillip Walker— Ferguson residents nearby the incident), that fall together in generally close claims. However, the only one who’s claim seems out of place is the police officer’s who shot Brown. Who, by the way, is put off on paid administrative leave AND who’s name remained under anonymity for his safety (However, attorney Benjamin Crump is looking for a way to force release his name). He claims that Brown began to wrestle the officer for his gun and tried attacking him after he told Brown and his friend Dorian Johnson (22) to “get the f*ck on the sidewalk”.
According to Johnson, after a minor confrontation on the officer’s part where he grabbed Brown by the neck and then by the shirt, the officer pulled his gun on Brown and shot him at point blank range on the right side of his body. Brown and Johnson were able to get away briefly and started running. However, Brown was shot in the back, supposedly disabling him from getting very far. He turned around with his arms in the air and said “I don’t have a gun, stop shooting!” By this point, Brown and the officer were face to face as the cop shot him several times in the face and chest until he was finally dead. Johnson ran to his apartment and by the sound of his account, seemingly had some sort of panic attack. Later he emerged from his home to see Brown still laying in the streets. People were gathered with their cellphones, screaming at the police.
According to msnbc, the police refuse to interview Johnson at all, despite his amazing courage to come forward. They didn’t wanna hear it. They only listened to the cop’s account of it all and were vague with the media on what they thought happened. They’ve also refused to commit to a timeline in releasing autopsy results and other investigation information.
Numerous rumors are sweeping around such as Brown stealing candy from a QuickTrip, the store he emerged from calling the cops on him, Brown reaching for a gun, Brown attacking the cop first, ect. But these have all been debunked. (I know a lot of these have been debunked, but im having a hard time finding sources. if anyone could help out and link some legit ones id be SO grateful)
The event in and of itself was terrible, but now it has escalated beyond belief. Around 100 or more people, mostly black, went to the police station to protest peacefully. Things quickly turned bad as martial law got involved and authorities were bringing in K9s, tanks, heavy artillery, ect. The heavy police presence only made things worse as riots began to break out and looting and vandalism started. [ x ] [ x ] [ x ]
Now, as of very recently, the media has been banned from Ferguson. There is also a No-Fly zone above Ferguson for the reason of “ TO PROVIDE A SAFE ENVIRONMENT FOR LAW ENFORCEMENT ACTIVITIES ” as said on the Federal Aviation Commission’s website. Cop cars are lined up on the borders to prevent people from entering/leaving. Media outlets are being threatened with arrest. It completely violates our amendments and everything.
It’s becoming increasingly scary and difficult to find out whats going on over there. I’m afraid this is all the information I have, though. If anybody else knows anything about the situation, please feel free to add on or correct any mistakes i’ve made as i’m no expert on writing these things.
And as a personal favor, i’d really appreciate anyone to give this a reblog in order to spread the word. I think it’s a shame that this is going on in our own country yet so few people know about it. Help me make this topic huge and get this as much attention as possible.
I am a strong believer that society, including school, plays a massive factor in increasing number of students with mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression. The rates of depression, anxiety, OCD, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, Bipolar, Anorexia, and Bulimia all are sky rocketing.
What is anyone doing about it?
Over 20% of young adults have a mental illness.
8 out of 100 teens report having serious depression.
8% of all teens have an anxiety disorder.
5% have ADD. 1% have OCD. 3% have ODD.
Only 38% with mood disorders get help.
Only 13% of eating disorder sufferers get help.
We need to do something.
Every time another person tells a sufferer to “Just get over it”, “Learn to meditate”, “You obvious don’t trust God”, “It’s all in your head”, “You’ll grow out of it”, “Wow, I really didn’t want you to inherit that side of the family.” is another moment that we fail as a supportive and healing society.
"What is your favorite thing about yourself?" "Definitely my bangs. I like to think people know me by my bangs especially when I use to have color in them; reds & blues & violets. I also really like them because I don’t have to do anything with them, they just always stay in place. I’m also really proud of my eyebrows, eyebrows are a big thing to me. I like how dark they are and they just stand out on my face. I work hard to keep them nice looking!”
"What is your favorite thing about yourself?" "My hair." "& why is that?" "It represents my personality. Kind of all over the place."
Skin is so fascinating.
Words like knives
Everyone is so caught up in the fake image of stereotypes and cliques.
Overhearing these harsh words about “preps” and “bad kids” and “leadership kids”, though they don’t really know anything at all about these kids they call their peers.
Though the world is hurting so deeply, we, as humans, blindly add to that pain through our words and our actions.
I will forever wish peace and kindness to come from my lips.
Something that has always intrigued and interested me is Feminism. I’ve always known about the concept, but only identified it with the crazy women who abused it to be treated like a princess and bash on men. For years, if someone asked me if I was a feminist, I would say “Of course not!” To me, all that meant was that I was above all men. Honestly, I thought that up until this year.
Of course, when I did my research I found that this idea was not that women are better than men, but that we are equal. For school I read through three books that made me realize that in the past I have put up with a lot of mistreatment by men that I never realized before. Really, looking into this topic not only helped keep me informed, but made me a stronger women. Now, if someone asked me if I am a feminist I would say “Yes, who wouldn’t be? It just means women are a lot more than dirt.”
The first book I read was Thousand Pieces of Gold by Ruthanne Lum McCunn. This read was extremely interesting because it gave me the point of view of a woman from another country and culture. In the novel, a chinese girl is sold by her father to feed her family. She is sold to a group of men who take her to American to force her to become a prostitute, where all the money she makes would go to them. Fortunately, she is bought by a kind American man who sees her as more than that and tries to make her his wife.
Reading this was quite sad because I know this still happens in other countries and did even more years ago. This book gave me knowledge on how far we have come in the U.S. It is disgusting that women were seen as property, something without feeling or a voice. This book was the most severe out of the three I read, but it was also inspiring. The girl in the novel went through so much, but through it all she never once believed that all she was is what the men said. She would collect pieces of gold to pay for her escape and create a life for herself.
The third book I read was complete opposite than the others, but was one of the most interesting ideas I’ve ever heard. It was called Whistling Vivaldi by Claude M. Steele. When I first heard the term “gender stereotypes” it was in Psychology and I could not stop thinking about it. Gender stereotypes are generalizations about gender attributes, differences, and roles of individuals or groups. For example, the female stereotypical role is to marry and have children. She is also to put her family’s welfare before her own; be loving, compassionate, caring, nurturing, and sympathetic; and find time to be sexy and beautiful. The male stereotypical role is to be the financial provider. He is also to be assertive, competitive, independent, courageous, career-focused, hold his emotions in, and always initiate sex. I personally disagree with these labels. Why should anyone be told how they should act? Something else that surprised me was the thought that if these labels weren’t programed into us since we were children, how different would our skills and personality be? Like math. It is said that men are supposed to be better at math than women. If I wasn’t told that, would I actually be better at it than I am? Just something to think about.
I felt so angry at the UCSB massacre (an article about this incident and a script of his video’s speech) and the sexism we’re blind to everyday so I drew about my opinions on sexism to channel my rage.
I’m very happy the #YesAllWomen tag is going strong on U.S. Twitter right now. :D
#YesAllWomen is trending on Twitter right now.
This is very important.
Right now, men just need to shut up, read these and learn. We HAVE to do better.